I strongly approve of family who ask that people donate to a cause or charity instead of sending flowers to a funeral. Such a better use of the money, and a good way to honor the deceased.
But here is the best one yet, a true inspiration. Anna Dewdney, the bestselling author and illustrator of the Llama Llama childrens books and others, died a week ago of brain cancer, at age 50. In lieu of a funeral service, Dewdney asked that people read to a child. What an incredible and fitting memorial to an author!